Dec 21 2015
Many of us have heard it before, "life is short." I agree and disagree with this sentiment. At 44 years young, I can say that time flies when you're having fun. So in that regard life has flown by and feels short. On the other hand, I've had such a full life that it feels like I've been here forever. What I believe to be important is the look in the rearview mirror at every juncture.
Decisions have consequences. No matter whether those consequences are ones we hoped for or ones we didn't, we must be comfortable with the process by which we used to make the decisions. When that happens and the result is not what we wanted, we can rebound much faster, taking comfort in our decision making process. We would do well to have each of our decisions rooted in our core value system. For instance, you apply and interview for a job utilizing your contacts (because you value connections), mentioning your expectations for open communication in the interview (because you value communication) and expressing your need for governing yourself and independence (because you value autonomy) and ultimately you don't get the job. Looking back, you align your process for getting the job up with your values and take comfort that you lived authentically in the process of applying for the position. Assuming you articulated your true core values, you can probably assume that they didn't share them and that it was not an organization for you.
When it's all said and done, are you happy with how you got here, no matter where "here" is? The goal is to answer yes. There is no guarantee that we will arrive to our intended destination. Let's have enjoyed the journey when all is said and done.
Posted by : Monica Cost